daneldorado wrote:What this tells me -- Sunflower, please correct me if you think I am wrong -- is that if a spankee is somewhat reluctant to be spanked, you can always try to temper her unease by setting a limit on the number of spanks, or on the pain level that she finds appropriate.
you are not wrong. I am never reluctant to be spanked (even though when I am getting spanked it hurts and I wonder why I asked for it!) but I always know what to expect as far as my swats are concerned. I am told how many are coming and I either count them (I find that embarrassing) or he does (almost as embarrassing) when I am OTK there are no set amount of spanks but he seems to know when I have had enough. even though I protest that my spankings hurt (and they do! trust me) they are never alarming to me. they are well within my tolerance level. I have received some swats that were pretty stingy, more than I thought they would be, but stuff happens! so yes, if limits are set before a spanking, us spankees are more comfortable with that. you seem to be a very considerate spanker Dan. a no nonsense spanker, but considerate. that is important.
web-ed wrote:And she forgot to count the swat, which means she gets it again - ouch! I think the first time this happens to a spankee, she's horrified just as Natalie is here, but they get over it eventually. I think you've captured the moment accurately.
it is indeed horrifying, and believe me, it will only happen once. because no pleading will stop it from being repeated. I have lost count once, because let's face it, with the sting going on in my bottom, it's hard to remember where the count is. but thank goodness, I recovered and continued to count. I don't know what would have happened if I got the count wrong. I don't even want to think about it! and yes, we get over it eventually! but no extra swats are needed, thank you very much!