This was an interesting comparing of notes among all our spanked co-eds (it occurs to me that at Overbarrel U. "M.S." stands for "Master of Spanking"
). There seems to be a difference of opinion among spanking parents as to whether a spanking should be given privately or not. We all know the tradition of the woodshed, which must have been to obtain privacy when the only other indoor spaces available were in 2-room cabins where someone else was sure to be looking on, and I'm sure we've all heard of the spankee being sent to her bedroom to await her fate. The "lying on a bed" position, which I disfavor, certainly stems from this practice. Other parents believed in discipline on the spot: if the infraction took place in the living room, that's where the spanking was given even if the spankee's brother and friend were watching T.V.!
From various people I've talked to along the way, it would seem that there are indeed differences in the way parents who spank actually proceed. As I was telling Willjohn, the one similarity that I see is that parents who are serious about spanking as punishment, usually also have a ritual which helps to emphasize the importance of the infraction to the spankee. As you mentioned, these rituals may either involve spanking in front of family members or in private. You have already mentioned a couple of the private ones.....the old woodshed for one and I personally knew some girls who mentioned being sent to their rooms to wait for a spanking. In either case, it was all part of the ritual of getting punished with a spanking. Of course, even though no one else usually saw those spankings, except perhaps for mom, they still knew that everyone was aware they were getting spanked and could usually hear the spanking taking place.
Some parents, as you mentioned, just spanked whenever and where ever the infraction took place and it was just too bad if friends or siblings were around to witness it. However, there were some parents who felt that a spanking given in front of other family members both added to the humiliation of getting a spanking and acted as a deterrent to prevent further offenses and also to siblings who might have mischief on their minds. I had one girl tell me that her spankings were normally private but she decided to make fun of her younger cousins at an extended family gathering, probably a holiday. They had all been misbehaving and she told them they have better behave or they might get a spanking but that she didn't have to because she was too old for a spanking. Unfortunately, her father overheard the conversation, ceremoniously turned her over his lap, pulled up her dress, pulled down her panties and paddled her until she was squalling, in front of the entire family. I guess this one was a " let the punishment fit the crime" spanking.
Some girls were just spanked, some were spanked and stood in the corner and some were stood in the corner, then spanked and then put back in the corner. In some families, spankings were given in private and in others siblings were called to the room to watch. In each case, it depended on the family rituals..........rituals designed specifically to cause the spanking to have the most impact on the guilty spankee. I don't remember ever hearing anyone say that they actually got spanked in the living room and then stood in the corner in front of the family! I guess I kind of cobbled this together from all the variations of family spanking rituals
As Boom mentioned, almost all of the spankees I've talked to about this have fond memories of their parental spankings regardless of the form they took or how much humiliation there was at the time because these rules were universally shared by all siblings and represented the love of their parents .
I've given public spankings and private ones, and on the whole I prefer the private ones although I'd like to think I've provided some entertaining moments for the spectators at the public ones (with the assistance of my spankee, of course).
Perhaps it just depends on the circumstances
. Thanks, Phil