Web-Ed, If you have a beautiful wife who enjoys taking a
spanking, you don’t know how lucky you are!
That being said, I understand your predicament – although the focus at
CSR is primarily M/F, I have long been planning to write an article
explaining how the various spanking orientations come about, and including
the difficulties faced by men in your position. Perhaps I should put that subject in a separate article. I don’t have the space here to go into the subject in the detail I would prefer, but the fact is that female Tops will always be less common than female Subs, so it will always be easier to find a woman to spank than one who is willing to give a spanking. Some women, whether vanilla or Sub, can learn how to spank, but in general the more submissive she is the harder this will be for her and the more unnatural it will seem. Again, I think you’re lucky that your wife is willing
to try to spank you – many women wouldn’t even make the attempt. But obviously she’s having trouble being
truly dominant, which is why you’re having trouble accepting her in that
role. Self-spanking among men is
highly unusual, and I’m not surprised that you don’t find it completely
satisfying. I can suggest three
courses of action: (1)
Show her some femdom videos and see if she can pick
up the dominant manner from them. I
don’t actually believe this will work but it’s worth a try. (2)
Tell her to spank you exactly the same way you spank
her – I’m assuming that you spank her with the necessary authority. This might give her the idea of what
you’re looking for. (3)
Get your spankings from someone other than your
wife. Unless you live in a
metropolitan area with a pro domme, this could prove difficult. A “cross” between this idea and #1 above
would be to see a pro domme along with your wife so she could see how
it’s done. You might also consider
traveling to one of the major spanking parties (Shadow Lane, or Crimson Moon
here in Chicago), where there will be at least a few female Tops. Good luck – I’d love to hear how it goes! Web-Ed |
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