sunflower309 wrote:hi Phil,
and yes, the web-ed is exactly right with his comment. the first time I received penalty swats, those damn taps drove me to distraction. I didn't know what to expect after the taps, I just wanted that first swat. I dreaded it but the taps were maddening. and like Mark my spanker was in no hurry. after the first swat I wondered why I was in such a hurry. it really stung! and I had to concentrate on not moving out of position. I wanted to stop after 1, but no such luck!
hi Sunflower,
both you and web-ed commented that waiting for the penalty swats causes anxiety which may be worse than actually getting the swats. it's just this kind of activity that increases the emotional intensity of the spanking and in my opinion, the greater the intensity of the spanking, the greater the satisfaction that is produced by the spanking

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sunflower309 wrote:I never thought of insecurity but that could be a part of it. I always thought it was because my bottom was indeed already sore. your statements are certainly true Phil. I don't look forward to those damn taps or swats, but I remember them fondly after they are over.
here is that love/hate thing that spankee's so often experience. you hate the anxiety of waiting but love it when reflecting afterward....................the same goes for the actual swats. it's all so interesting............and confusing..............and satisfying

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sunflower309 wrote:
I am glad to be able to give you the spankees perspective. of course still being fairly new to all this I could not be real accurate. I am not real sure what my spanker is doing for sure. I have peeked back a few times recently because I am getting more comfortable (not my bottom though) with being paddled and starting to pay more attention. I am sure that he enjoys it as much as I think Mark is going to.
sunflower
i really appreciate it that you share your spankee's perspective with us. that is all too often, hard to come by

. it seems to me that you are indeed getting more comfortable with the spanking process and i hope that means you are enjoying the process more. i'll be looking forward to more of your comments as time goes on.
sunflower309 wrote:I forgot. making Natalie admit that it is her fault she is receiving swats is a powerful tool also. I hate admitting it's my fault i'm getting spanked or getting swats but it adds something for me. a large part of a satisfying part of my spanking are what is said to me. some things have a real impact. sometimes I don't hear anything because I am concentrating on the sting in my bottom. I would never tell him that of course! .
sunflower
more interesting comments. i have always felt that the emotional part of a spanking is the most powerful and intense and here you have provided confirmation that is true.

those words you mention can really increase the intensity of a spanking starting right at the beginning with the announcement and going right on through. yep, it sounds to me like you are enjoying all this more and more as you gain experience

. thanks for sharing. phil